Leadership Quotes

What chance gathers she easily scatters. A great person attracts great people and knows how to hold them together.
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

A general is just as good or just as bad as the troops under his command make him.
General Douglas MacArthur

Men are governed only by serving them; the rule is without exception.
V. Cousin

The real leader has no need to lead--
he is content to point the way.
Henry Miller

Not the cry, but the flight of a wild duck, leads the flock to fly and follow.
Chinese Proverb

Be known for pleasing others, espcecially if you govern them...Ruling other has one advantage: you can do more good than anyone else.
Baltasar Gracián

Go to the people. Learn from them. Live with them. Start with what they know. Build with what they have. The best of leaders when the job is done, when the task is accomplished, the people will say we have done it ourselves.
Lao Tzu

A leader is a dealer in hope.
Napoleon Bonaparte

Rely on your own strength of body and soul. Take for your star self-reliance, faith, honesty and industry. Don't take too much advice — keep at the helm and steer your own ship, and remember that the great art of commanding is to take a fair share of the work. Fire above the mark you intend to hit. Energy, invincible determination with the right motive, are the levers that move the world.
Noah Porter

There is always room for a man of force and he makes room for many. Society is a troop of thinkers and the best heads among them take the best places.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader. 
John Quincy Adams

The people follow the example of those above them.
Chinese Proverb

He who has never learned to obey
cannot be a good commander.
Aristotle

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
Martin Luther King, Jr.(from Christian Leadership World)

Any one can hold the helm when the sea is calm.
Publilius Syrus

A leader is a dealer in hope.
Napoleon Bonaparte

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Marc Anthony Goes Public With Much Younger Girlfriend – at Disneyland

Marc Anthony has a new muse to inspire his romantic ballads.

The 44-year-old crooner went public with the new – and much younger – woman in his life, Chloe Green, on Tuesday. And where did the new couple make their big debut? Disneyland!

We’re not sure if it’s new love – or the fact that they were at “The Happiest Place on Earth” – but Anthony and 21-year-old Green clearly seemed to be enjoying themselves during the Anaheim, California, outing, which included Anthony’s twins with ex-wife Jennifer Lopez, Max and Emme, who recently celebrated their 5^th birthday. The star had his arm around Green, who is the heiress to the Topshop fashion empire, and even gave her a smooch as photographers snapped away.

(Jason Merritt/FilmMagic)(Jason Merritt/FilmMagic)

At one point Green – who turns 22 on Saturday, making her exactly half her new beau’s age – was carrying Emme while Anthony pushed Max in a stroller. The British fashionista – rocking a double denim look – appeared to be quite comfortable with his children.

Marc Anthony and Chloe Green with Max and Emme at Disneyland. (Jason Merritt/FilmMagic)

The singer stole a kiss from his lady love. (Jason Merritt/FilmMagic)

While Anthony hasn’t yet made any declarations of love about Green on Twitter (he’s been known to PDA tweet), he has plugged her family’s clothing company.

“Who ever doesn't know about #Topshop #Topman in LA has to get in on it! Just had the time of my life at The Grove Amazing,” he tweeted on Sunday, referring to the new store which drew a star-studded crowd at its recent opening.The fact Anthony has a new gal pal comes as a bit of a surprise seeing as earlier this month it appeared he had rekindled his romance with model Shannon de Lima. On February 7 he tweeted a photo from a family birthday party for his 12-year-old son, Cristian. In the picture, Lima was by his side – and so was J.Lo and her boyfriend, Casper Smart.[Related: Jennifer Lopez and Casper Smart Join Marc Anthony for Son’s Birthday Party, But Where’s Mom?] Cristian and another son, 9-year-old Ryan, are Anthony’s children with his first ex-wife, former Miss Universe Dayanara Torres. He also has daughter Ariana with his ex-girlfriend Debbie Rosado. At 18, his eldest child is just a few years older than his new girlfriend.But who’s counting … right?

The moment you imagine

Imagine that problems are no longer a problem for you. Imagine that the frustrations no longer frustrate you.
Imagine that you are no longer limited by the limitations. Imagine that the obstacles no longer are able to hold you back.
Now consider this. Your life is the way it is not because of what comes your way, but because of how you respond to it all.
If you can truly imagine that the problems are no problem, that is the way it will be. If you can sincerely imagine that the obstacles cannot hold you back, they won’t.
Do you respond to the difficulties by making them even worse? Or do you choose to imagine yourself beyond them?
The moment you imagine, it changes nothing except you. And yet, that is more than enough to completely change your world.
— Ralph Marston

Engaging Emerging Leaders: Working with Young and Nontraditional Student Leaders

For many youth, the perception that they may be included in the broad category of being "a leader" doesn't always feel natural. Often, the larger population of students in a school identifies or segregates the "leaders" from the others. In their minds, they perceive that leaders are those who run for (and win) student council, lead the athletic teams, or serve on advisory boards -for the principal. In some settings, this student perception may be an accurate reflection of the leadership development efforts of staff and faculty at the school. However, conscientious leadership educators, increasingly sensitive to the immense diversity of characteristics and behaviors of leaders, should be capable of identifying emerging leaders outside the traditional positions, and likewise, develop programs and opportunities that assist those youth in expressing their leadership potential. Most significant in developing the leadership potential of youth is paying attention to two student populations-- young leaders on the cusp of taking on more significant leadership roles, and nontraditional student leaders, individuals who are leaders in their own right yet have not been widely identified or nurtured because of limited opportunities to display these talents.

Working with Young Leaders

In some ways, young leaders are a step ahead of nontraditional leaders because they generally have already engaged in some type of visible leadership experience. These experiences may include participation in a school committee, athletic participation through childhood, running for a secondary leadership position, club membership, youth group participation, or attending a leadership workshop. In doing these activities, these students have started to self-actualize whether or not they enjoy taking on the roles related to being a leader.

Depending upon the school culture (positive/negative) and intrinsic or extrinsic rewards of experiences, young leaders are vulnerable to ceasing to go on with developing leadership skills. At this point, it is crucial for adults who work with these youth to take time to expose them to additional leadership experiences that reinforce the value of being a leader. Most important, these experiences must be meaningful, not simply token, and should require the use of personal skills that demonstrate leadership ability. As a young leader develops greater self-confidence in his or her ability to make a difference in the school and community, the attractiveness of being a leader increases.

Young leaders must have opportunities that not only build upon personal abilities but also provide a safe environment for trying new things. For example, if a young leader attempts to plan an event without support or formalized skill development, he or she likely will become frustrated and step away from future opportunities. Likewise, if a young leader makes a mistake and is not given a chance to reflect on and apply the lessons of that mistake, apprehension about taking on the responsibility of leading will overshadow the rewards that could come from future successes. Adults can greatly affect these emerging leaders by respecting their present experiences rather than wanting them to demonstrate more sophisticated leadership skills than for what they are prepared. Adults can also encourage greater leadership involvement by providing leadership development efforts that reflect how leadership skills apply in daily life and for the future.

Working with Nontraditional Leaders

Nontraditional leaders are those who have not taken intentional steps to be recognized as leaders in school. These students are active in volunteering, tutoring others, being a student assistant, or working outside of school; are members of a club without holding a position; or have informal leadership within their group of friends. Nontraditional leaders are also those who may be viewed by adults and peers as high-risk or lacking potential to make a positive difference in school. Most can agree, however, that informal leaders often have greater influence on peer behaviors than student leaders who are insensitive to the broader student population or remain in cliques comprised only of other student leaders.

As with young leaders, it is important to inspire these youth by acknowledging the leadership skills and experiences they have gained through their existing involvement. For example, a student who actively volunteers develops strengths in communication, team work, resourcefulness, dependability, working for the greater good, and so forth. By inviting this student to participate in a formal leadership experience such as a workshop or class echoes the value of his or her skills even if they have not been exhibited in school. Many nontraditional leaders will be less likely to participate in leadership activities if they have to develop a campaign or be selected by others, primarily because they tend to recognize their internal strengths and successes as leaders, even if their ability isn't apparent to others.

A latent talent group of nontraditional leaders are those viewed by others as at-risk-delinquents, special needs students, non-attenders, teen parents, and so forth. In general, these teens are overlooked and undervalued with regards to their potential contributions as leaders. Ironically, their innate leadership skills are incredible because they often struggle to survive in a complex environment, with the truth of this environment hidden from the greater awareness of adults and peers. When equipped with leadership skills, at-risk youth become resilient youth who are able to take care of their destinies instead of drifting through school. Again, a simple invitation to participate gives these nontraditional leaders the sense that someone else believes in them.

Suggestions and Action Steps

Following are some actions that can help transform the leadership potential of young and nontraditional leaders, as well as inspire these youth to continue on the path to explore more deeply what leadership means in their lives:

• Develop meaningful leadership experiences that allow youth to self-select for participation (rather than relying upon votes, nominations, or other selection processes)
• Provide consistent, frequent, and diverse opportunities for youth to take on leadership roles within the communities or organizations most influential to youth (e.g., schools, youth groups, community centers).
• Respect and be sensitive to the power of pre-adolescent and adolescent experiences and help students relate these to their roles and responsibilities as leaders.
• Deliberately select different students for leadership opportunities (workshops, conferences, etc.) so that the same students are not repeatedly selected.
• Involve high- or at-risk youth in school-related leadership roles. Overlooking this population or believing that leadership development should serve as a reward increases the attractiveness of negative social experiences to take precedence (e.g., gangs, negative peer-pressure, drug culture).
• Take advantage of formerly missed opportunities to develop leadership. Use detention time to conduct leadership skills activities. Challenge the paradigm-who says students must sit doing nothing? Teach a leadership class specifically for emerging and nontraditional leaders, create broader selection criteria for advisory boards, promote leadership opportunities in new and creative ways, and so forth.
• Develop an understanding of the diversity and cultural differences expressed through leadership behaviors and incorporate different styles into leadership experiences.
• Empower and allow youth to take on significant responsibilities and leadership roles without expecting perfection. Recognize that everything takes time and leadership learning occurs even when mistakes are made.
• Encourage all students to develop a co-curricular transcript or portfolio and emphasize the variety of ways that leadership can be demonstrated without only identifying elected or selected positions.
• Recognize students who demonstrate nontraditional leadership skills through volunteering, taking on greater responsibility in a job, or serving as student assistants, and promote the power of one person or a small collective of individuals to make a difference in your school.
• Be flexible to learn from spontaneous classroom or group discussions rather than maintaining an over-programmed setting where leadership issues are only addressed by student council or the principal's advisory board.
• Evaluate and explore your own definition and beliefs about leaders and leadership so that you are open to involving a greater variety of students in leadership development efforts, even if it requires additional time to identify and invite students who don't naturally rise to the top.

Using these ideas or other productive efforts will engage these two student populations into developing and contributing their leadership talents more deliberately with others. Ideally, creating opportunities for meaningful participation will increase the number of youth involved in leadership activities, and decrease the tendency to rely on the same students, event after event, class after class. An ultimate outcome of inviting hesitant youth leaders, in addition to providing broader diversity in the views, voices, and visions represented, is to enhance the overall climate and culture for everyone by having a greater proportion of students connected to school-based leadership development efforts.

By Mariam G. MacGregor

TANZANIAN SINGER "DIAMOND" HAS A NEW GIRLFRIEND!!

For those who have been following up on this singer's love life,you will all be releaved to know 'he has a new girlfriend'..and SHE is not among the Tanzanian celebrities!!

 This Fashion Icon in the Tanzanian music industry told Millard Ayo on "Amplifaya" on Clouds Fm,..that,he is dating another girl for almost two months now...And he wants it..(the relationship) to stay low since his new girl is not a celebrity and he (Diamond) is trying to avoid scandals like what happened to his former relationship!

 Now...you all remember the "Diamonds are Forever" concert of last month? In that concert,we got to see the really status of the relationship between Diamond and his former girlfriend,Wema Sepetu(former Miss Tanzania). Diamond poured his heart out,and as per his song lyrics,he seemed hurt pretty bad!!

 

 

So,when he refused to aknowledge Wema's "generosity"......we knew it was over...and we gossiped much on "who is the new girlfriend?"...Some rumoured it to be Jokate...BUT now the news is out...Its NOT Jokate...the new girlfriend is just a girl next dooor,and not a Tanzanian celeb/superstar...we are yet to capture a picture of the two.....

We wish you luck,Diamond....God knows you deserve it :))
 

Thanks to  Missie Popular blog for this news..

Pregnant Kate's First Royal Visit..

Duchess of Cambridge inspects addiction treatment centre in south London

Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge, has travelled to Hope House treatment centre in Clapham, south London, in her role as patron of Action on Addiction. The visit was arranged to allow the duchess to meet women who are rebuilding their lives. Kate, who is now more than four months pregnant, wore a MaxMara dress, and was seen to clasp her small baby bump for a moment before heading inside the building.

Nick Barton, chief executive of Action on Addiction, defended his royal patron, describing her as an 'intelligent' woman genuinely interested in the work of his organisation.

The Duchess was given a warm reception on her arrival at the centre.

The Duchess' visit coincided with comments from the novelist Hilary Mantel, who criticised the Duchess as appearing to have been 'gloss-varnished' with a perfect plastic smile in contrast to Princess Diana, whom she described as awkward and emotionally incontinent. Mantel added that the 'painfully thin' Kate was selected for her role of princess because she posed no risk of showing any character.

Business Etiquette In Africa..

There’s no doubt about the fact that Africa has emerged as one of the world’s fastest-growing markets for consumer and capital goods, and is busy evolving to a very profitable place to do business. Of course, Africa is not homogenous and each and every country represents unique nuances and challenges to those wishing to partner on a business level. Not least of these challenges is the fact that cultural differences make for a very different set of expectations when it comes to business etiquette. Here are some of the basic etiquette norms that you may find common in Africa, particularly in the east and west regions...

Greetings
Greeting processes are extremely important in most African countries, so be sure to take time to perform this ritual thoroughly as rushing it could appear rude. When meeting a group, greet each person individually, in order of seniority, bowing your head slightly when the person is much older than you. Direct eye contact is used far less frequently in Africa– rather than showing trust and confidence, as it often does in western practice, it can demonstrate defiance or a lack of respect. In many African countries, soft handshakes are customary, and can be quite prolonged; in some Islamic countries it could even extend to a handhold. In Kenya, well-acquainted businesspeople of the same sex may greet with hugs; though it would be prudent to wait for this action to be initiated! In most cases, women are expected to receive a handshake, not offer one.
You can never go wrong with using surnames and titles when you first meet, with academic and professional titles emphasised. Business cards, while exchanged without formal ritual, should be presented and received with both hands or the right hand (the left hand is seen as unclean and its use should be avoided at all costs) and visibly studied before being pocketed.

Attire
While each business meeting will have its own code, it’s important to be smartly dressed with a tie, keeping your look modest and conservative. In particularly hot countries, dark suits can be replaced with lighter linen ones, and don’t be surprised if your host shows up in traditional dress. In countries like Tanzania, immodest dress is a sign of disrespect, and while it is accepted that foreign women in business will wear trousers, locals will always wear skirts.

Time sensitivities
“African time” happens at a slower and more relaxed pace than most Westerners are used to, making patience a virtue sorely needed to conduct business successfully. While punctuality is valued, it is not considered as vital as it is in some cultures and sticking to schedules is less important than an individual’s particular situation. Schedule meetings well ahead of time and call the day before to confirm – while your business partner might well arrive late, do your best to be on time.

Meeting conduct and negotiations
Many African cultures place huge emphasis on personal relationships, so you could well expect to spend the first two hours of your first meeting getting to know each other. Øjvind Krabbe, founder of AfricaPace, an online networking tool for business in Africa, has the following advice for how to navigate discussions: “It is custom to exchange greetings and pleasantries before starting the meeting. Just have a soft discussion about the environment, giving positive comments about special things you have seen or observed in the streets; avoid the topic of politics or criticism.
Ask questions and do not assume; learn and be modest. Use the correct titles for people and understand and show that you respect the rank of people. In negotiations never ever be rude, rather be firm and use charm – being tough will only offend. When you’re closing a deal, always make sure that ALL terms and conditions are clearly defined and written down and equally understood by both parties.”

Entertainment
Africans are renowned for eating and generous entertaining, and your host will most likely go out of his way to show you a good time. It would be considered impolite to refuse the social part of the business process, so be sure to reserve time for this aspect. Many countries don’t use knives and forks so expect to eat with your hands; though avoid the use of the left hand, especially in Muslim countries. In Nigeria, leaving some food is a signal that you have had enough; if you clean your plate you are indicating that you have not yet eaten your full.
Dinner may be served on a low table, with guests seated on pillows. Bear in mind that it is rude to show the sole of your shoe, so take note of your seated posture! Another impolite symbol is the western “thumbs-up”; and this applies across most of Africa. Be sure not to let your host know how good the food is with this common gesture! Expensive gifts are not necessary, but if you go to an associate’s home you may want to take fruit, nuts or chocolate or gifts for the children. Flowers are less appropriate, reserved rather to offer condolences on losses.

Getting acquainted with the African way of doing things will stand you in good stead to understand and embrace the culture. At the end of the day, your attitude will make or break your business success – either you will be seen as a new “coloniser” or a trusted business partner working together towards joint profitability. And correct business etiquette will go a long way to bridge that gap.

Delta probes death of pregnant woman

DELTA State government has commenced investigations into the death of a pregnant woman, Mrs. Elo Oyoro, rushed to the GeneralHospital, Ughelli, November 25, last year, but who died  due to alleged neglect and absence of a doctor.

However, Oghenejabor Ikimi, counsel to the widower, Mr. Onome Joseph, told Vanguard, yesterday, that his client was not satisfied with the manner the Ministry of Health was handling the probe and would head to court.

His words: “I detailed Barrister Lord Ibordor to represent me. They got to the Central Hospital, Ughelli by 10.00 am but the investigating team, led by the medical director, Central Hospital, Warri, arrived by 12.00 pm, thus Joseph Onome was kept waiting for two hours”.

“After hearing from Joseph Onome alone, the team heard from the doctors and nurses, as Joseph Onome was requested by the team to excuse them. Joseph Onome, who rushed his wife to the hospital and knew what transpired had no opportunity of cross-examining them, including the medical director of Life Care Clinic, thus denying us fair hearing,” he said.

Ikimi stated, “The entire process was a shame, hence we have headed to the court to seek lawful redress”.

Tanzania: Sweet Success of Keeping Bees in Mara Region..

THE beekeeping industry in the country is underperforming despite the fact that the industry can play a big role in social-economic gains and environmental conservation.
It is a source of food, a raw material for candles, medicine and provides an income for beekeepers and other stakeholders in general.

Its high turnover coupled with the small start-up capital needs propelled Singita Grumeti Reserves (SGR) to embark on a beekeeping project to empower communities in Serengeti district, Mara region.

SGR has distributed over 350 bee hives to beekeeping projects in communities in the district and is already gaining momentum. Community Outreach Programme Coordinator Mr Richard Ndaskoi said beekeeping is a lucrative business. He was briefing the Minister for Natural Resources and Tourism, Ambassador Khamis Kagasheki, who was in the region to see community development projects being implemented by SGR.

He explained that honey sells like hot cakes with one litre of honey going for 10,000/- . Many customers are guests at the lodges. He said training on bee keeping education is provided at an institute established in the area that takes in secondary students on weekly short courses on environment and conservation. In the classroom students are taught conservation of the environment.

There is a small modern beehive made of wood and glass and full of bees, for practical beekeeping lessons. "Villagers have ready markets from visitors who are willing to buy the honey for 10,000/- per litre. The project helps conserve the environment with the doing away of bushfires, which are not only a threat to the environment, but also to wild animals. Villagers no longer set bushfire because of fear of burning the beehives," he explained.

He said beekeeping project is expanding rapidly among communities in the district, making it popular because of being a source of income, that does not need a lot of start up capital. The Minister for Natural Resources and Tourism, Ambassador Khamis Kagasheki, stressed that beekeeping business venture has not been taken seriously by majority of the population, despite the fact that it does not require a huge start-up capital.

Ambassador Kagasheki agreed that his ministry has not put a lot of effort in promoting bee keeping even though it is easy to start and operate, and the huge market for honey available within and outside the country. "The Prime Minister is also in the beekeeping business and he has put a lot of effort in promoting the industry, but I must confess, we still have a lot to do, to ensure the public really understand that it is the easiest and cheapest business venture to establish, which has huge returns," he explained.

Tanzania: Ponda's Case Is Civil, Not Criminal, His Lawyers Argue..

Lawyers for Sheikh Ponda Issa Ponda asserted in court on Thursday (February 21st) that charges pending against Ponda are civil and not criminal, Tanzania's Daily News reported.

Ponda, secretary-general of the Council of Islamic Organisation, has been charged with 49 of his followers with illegally occupying a plot of land owned by Agritanza Limited, which his lawyers contend is a land ownership dispute that should be treated as a civil case.

"For sure, in this case there is a dispute on legal ownership of the plot," Ponda's lawyer Tahaya Njama said, alleging that police should have brought the dispute to a land tribunal.

Witness for the prosecution Senior Superintendent of Police Ame Anange Anoquie argued that the occupation of the plot was clearly a criminal act, and police acted properly.

"I was forced to believe that the accused committed criminal offenses because responsible land authorities evidenced that the legal owner of the plot was Agritanza Limited," he said. Anoquie said Ponda and his followers failed to provide any documents proving their ownership of the land, while the land division in the office of the Temeke Municipal Council confirmed Agritanza's ownership.

ARVs can win HIV fight: study..

The widespread use of antiretroviral therapy could decrease the HIV infection rate to the extent that the advance of the pandemic would be reversed.

The widespread use of antiretroviral therapy could decrease the HIV infection rate to the extent that the advance of the pandemic would be reversed.

This is according to a new study by the Africa Centre for Health and Population Studies, published by the University of KwaZulu-Natal on Friday.

The therapy is said to be highly beneficial .

A recent clinical trial involved couples, one of whom was HIV-positive, the other uninfected.

The trial showed that the treatment greatly reduced the likelihood that an HIV-infected individual would pass the virus onto a partner.

The study, led by Professor Frank Tanser, of the Africa Centre, was conducted in Hlabisa, northern KwaZulu-Natal. More than 24000 people participated.

The research showed that one in four adults is living with HIV.

During the study - between 2004 and 2011 - about 17000 HIV-negative people were repeatedly tested every two year on average.

Of these participants, 1413 became HIV-positive - a rate of 2.6% a year.

These people were given antiretroviral therapy when they qualified for treatment under South African guidelines.

When other well-established risk factors for infection were taken into account, an HIV-negative individual was nearly 40% less likely to acquire the virus in areas where therapy coverage was 30% to 40% of all people living with HIV.

"This study is extremely significant. It is another piece in the puzzle that shows how treatment keeps people healthy and productive, and at the same time significantly reduces the likelihood of transmission of the virus," said Tanser.

Tanser said that the results provide convincing evidence that the risk of catching HIV is reduced with the prolific use of antiretroviral therapy.

"It is the first time that we have been able to show such results in a population setting -- an important finding which will help guide the HIV response."

The full results of the study, which spanned seven years, were published in the journal Science last week.

UNAIDS has welcomed the South African findings, and has called on all countries and communities to achieve high coverage of antiretroviral therapy, for the benefit of both people living with HIV and for the communities in which they live.

Pistorius’ Brother Facing Culpable Homicide Charges..

Murder-accused Paralympian Oscar Pistorius' brother Carl is facing a charge of culpable homicide, the family's lawyer confirmed in a statement on Sunday. Meanwhile, a close friend of Reeva's father said he 'must rot'.

 

 

 

The charge related to a 2008 road accident, in which a woman motorcyclist lost her life, lawyer Kenny Oldwage confirmed in the statement, which was issued by Vuma Reputation Management.

"Following the accident culpable homicide charges were brought against Carl Pistorius but the charges were later withdrawn by the State," he said

However, the charges were later reinstated by the Deputy Public Prosecutor at the National Prosecuting Authority (NPA).

Speaking on Carl Pistorius' behalf, Oldwage said the charge would be challenged in court. "Carl deeply regrets the accident," he said.

Blood tests conducted by the police at the time proved that he had not been under the influence of alcohol.

Carl Pistorius appeared in court on Thursday, the day before bail of R1 million was granted to his brother. The case was postponed until the end of March. The exact date could not be confirmed.

Oscar Pistorius is accused of killing his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp at his home in Pretoria on February 14. The case has been postponed until June 4.

Meanwhile, the father of Reeva’s close friend has said the Paralympian’s conscience would get the better of him.

"Whatever happens, whether he goes to jail or not... he can rot in hell. His conscience will get the better of him," Cecil Myers told the City Press.

Steenkamp was Myers' daughter Gina's best friend for six years and had lived with the family in Glenhazel, Johannesburg, since September. Myers has been called Steenkamp's "Johannesburg dad". Her actual family lives in Port Elizabeth.

Myers told the newspaper he had to identify Steenkamp's body after she was shot. "It was terrible, I couldn't drive myself back home," he said.

He reportedly met Steenkamp's father for the first time at her funeral in Port Elizabeth on Tuesday.

"Her father introduced me to friends as 'Reeva's Joburg father'. He kept thanking me for being so kind to his daughter in Johannesburg, for looking after her."

Myers said the last time his family heard from Steenkamp was late last Wednesday night, just hours before her death.

"I've got this thing with all three children [Steenkamp, and his daughters, Kim and Gina]. If they don't come home at night, they must text me.

"Then Reeva sent the [sms] message: 'Hi guys, I'm too tired. It's too far to drive. I'm sleeping at Oscar's tonight. See you tomorrow.

"Tomorrow never dawned for her... I have nightmares at night thinking how frightened she must have been. Can you imagine how terrified she was?"

Myers reportedly blames himself and wonders what he could have done to prevent Steenkamp's death.

"That's the worst for me. If Reeva had rather taken a chance and driven home that night.... I should've texted her back: 'We'll meet you halfway, then Desi [his wife] and I will drive your car back.' Then she would have been safe now."

Myers told City Press only Pistorius really knew what happen on the night of the shooting. "She [Steenkamp] can't tell us anymore."

City Press also reported that medication found in Pistorius' house after the murder was a herbal remedy used by men for extra energy in bed.

Warrant Officer Hilton Botha -- who was the investigating officer, but has since been withdrawn from the case -- testified that the substance was testosterone. However, he later admitted that the substance was still being tested and it was not known what it was.

According to Pistorius' lawyers, the product is the legal homoeopathic remedy testis compositum.

Sports physician Dr Jon Patricios told City Press it was commonly used to combat flagging sexual energy, but that athletes were advised not to use it because it could increase their testosterone levels.

WORD..

Lets keep imagining :-)

MDG are still a challenge..

1. Eradicate extreme poverty and hunger

Today’s livelihoods programmes must take account of adolescent-headed households,

out-of-school youth, economic migrants, internally displaced persons and refugees. In

this more fluid social landscape youth work expertise is needed to help resolve

resource conflict issues, build consensus between the generations and promote skills

transfer where traditional pathways have broken down. It is also needed to ensure

cross-sector collaboration on youth livelihoods interventions.

2. Achieve universal primary education

Although youth workers usually educate in the non-formal setting, they play a role in

encouraging out-of-school youth to go back to education, and also in making sure the

parent community understands the value of education.

3. Promote gender equality and empower women

A “youth-worked” community is one in which young women have a voice. Raising

young women’s expectations and building their self-esteem is at the heart of informal

education.

4. Reduce child mortality; 5. Improve maternal health

“Youth-worked” health services are ones which are approachable and nonjudgemental

toward young mothers, with information campaigns that connect with

youth cultures.

6. Combat HIV/AIDS, malaria and other diseases

As agencies look to peer-education as part of combating HIV/AIDS and encouraging

healthy lifestyles, the ability to communicate with young people becomes a life-saving

issue. Self-esteem issues are central to young people’s negotiating and sustaining

behaviour change. HIV/AIDS is overwhelmingly a disease of young adults.

7. Ensure environmental sustainability

Youth workers have a role to play in mitigating unsustainable urbanisation: by helping

young people toward a more realistic understanding of life in today’s cities, and by

building recreation and livelihoods in rural areas. Youth workers are also vital to

conservation and public health efforts, the sustainability of which depends on new

generations.

8. Develop a global partnership for development

This Goal sets out a number of macro objectives that would improve young people’s

access to sustainable livelihoods, including inter alia: an open trading and financial

system that is rule-based; debt relief; more generous development assistance; and

access to affordable essential drugs. It also makes specific reference to young

people: “In cooperation with the developing countries, develop decent and productive

work for youth.”